My daughter, Natasha, loves to swim. She loves the water. She's very comfortable and confident in her ability to stay above water, go under water, and swim around the deep end of the pool. As a result, swimming brings her joy, peace, and laughter. My son, Nathanael, on the other hand, fears the water. He lacks confidence in his ability to swim. He'll only get into the pool on his own terms. He will stay in the shallow end and hold on to the sides careful not to wade into the deep end. Swimming makes him anxious, scared, and distrusting even though he's had swimming lessons.
Nathanael used to be carefree and bold in the water until the day he jumped into a pool without proper supervision (before the swim lessons). He became afraid of going underwater. Then when he took swimming lessons he had to learn to get over his fear of going underwater (which was pretty trying in itself). He did well during his week of swim lessons, but that summer past and a new summer came around. He found his fear of water waiting for him at the pool again. He's faced the same fear for the past three years. This year is no different.
Things happen in our lives that steal our joy, peace, and laughter. They are replaced with anxiety, fear, and distrust. We think we overcome them, only to find the truth of the matter was that the season had just past. When we find ourself in that season again, we find ourselves facing the same fears again. What we have to remember is that we will always have that season present itself in our lives. So the real issue is not the season but are we prepared to enter our season.
Every summer I encourage Nathanael to enter the pool. He doesn't want anyone touching him when he does. This week I asked him if he would get in the pool with me and I told him I would stay a good distance away from him (building trust). He agreed. I asked him to practice swimming underwater in the shallow end as he kicked his feet. He agreed. He did a great job. I challenged him to increase his distance. He did. Today, I got to our hotel after my meeting at the Ministry Center and found Nathanael had swam in the deep end. He trusted Mom to swim him to the deep end, and then trusted himself to swim alone. I see him enjoying the pool. I see him smiling and laughing in the pool. This season too will pass, and I'm confident that as Nathanael exercises what he has learned in the pool this year, he will welcome the swimming seasons to come. After all, there is more to swimming than overcoming your fear of the water...embracing the love of swimming!
Perfect love casts out fear!
Jesse
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